How
does it feel, when you hesitate in deciding a decision? You will be extremely confused, whether you
have to be honest or not. Once honesty can drive you to be success in solving your
problem, you will admire the value of honesty very much. Once you dishonest,
you will engage with bad feeling for a long time. Honesty is the highest value
in this life more than everything. I had also an experience about my friend.
She faced a complicated situation, her name is Alice. Alice got back with her
ex boyfriend without getting permission from her parents. Alice’s ignorance to
my suggestion for being honest and her decision to keep her backstreet
relationship from her parents made me mad at her.
One
day, Alice told me about her problem. She got back with her ex boyfriend, his
name is Jerry. I knew that their relationship was forbidden by Alice’s parents
because they have different religion and family’s background. When their
relationship broke, Alice was very sad. She couldn’t move on. After they were
apart for approximately 1 year, Alice and Jerry got back to have a
relationship. I knew that both of them love each other. They continued their relationship
again without known by Alice’s parents. Then, I suggested Alice to be honest
about her relationship to her parents. Alice has to talk to her parents
honestly. At least she has an effort to get permission. I advised Alice that
Jerry had an important role too. Jerry should convince Alice’s parent that he
is not as bad as they thought. I believe, everything that is started with a
good intention will result a good outcome as well.
Lastly,
after a long conversation we had. Alice decided that she will not say the truth
to her parent. She was very pessimist. She was afraid that her parents will be
angry to her. I knew that she didn’t have any bravery to say it up, but she
will never know what the result is if she never try. I was mad and anxious as
well. I worry that the problem will be more complicated. Her parents will be
much angrier with her if they know about the truth by themselves later. Her
parents will judge Jerry as a bad boy instead. Therefore, I suggested her to be
honest to her parent and prove to them that her boyfriend has a good intention
in their relationship.
Honestly,
I don’t like her decision to hide the relationship from her parents because
honesty is very crucial in every single thing that we do. Although she doesn’t
want to speak up now, I hope that she can say the truth to her parents later. I
understand that she loves Jerry very much. It is uneasy in gaining what she
really wants, she needs hard efforts to convince and get permission from her
parents. Everything has to be started with honesty otherwise worse consequences
probably happen.
Indra, will you angry with me too? actually i have backstreet relationship too as Alice does. I kept my relationship with my boyfriend until now (our relation is in the age of 4years). i have ever tried to have relationship with the other boys when i was in senior high school but our relationship was not good. i felt uncomfortable with the other boys. so i got back with my present boyfriend (Y). i have ever told to my mother about our relation. can u guess her answer? " broke your relation now because he is bad for you, there are so many boys in this world, u have to focus on your study, never think about boys because you are still a student now, i will never give my permission if you still continue ur relation with him" this is her answer Indra. from that incident, i never share my happiness or even my sadness to my mother. i feel so confused and feel alone at home because nobody even my sister can to be my friend.
ReplyDeleteAri,
ReplyDeleteSometimes what happen in the reality is not as nice as we expect.
I had also a similar experience with you and Alice. I ever had a backstreet relationship from my parents for roughly 4 years. My parents forbid me to have a boyfriend because I was very young at that time, when I was in Junior High. As what your mom said, my parents want me to finish my study first, then I will got their permission. It's normally happen I think because all parents want their children to be success. Time goes on and I could prove to my parents that having a boy friend empower me in studying instead. My boy friend also prove to my parents that he has a good intention to my family and me. Lastly, my parents trust me and let me to have a relationship with my boy friend.
So Ari, don't give up! Keep struggling in order to get permission from your parents. You have to prove to your parents that your boy friend brings many positive impact to your life. You can prove by showing your bests achievements or others.
:)
Hi indra,
ReplyDeletenice to read your writing.
actually the content of your writing is good. i can easy to understand. :)
for me your writing is better than mine. i don't know how could I make it like yours.
from your writing, i can imagine the situation of it. i will do the same as you did it to your friend to tell the truth. because being honest is wonderful :)
thxs ;)